Have you ever met someone who is really positive, happy, kind and great to be around, but when you spend the time to get to know them, you realise that they are unhappy, or there are other sides to their personality that you don’t understand? I call this the 'Positive Mindset Mask'. It’s when someone tries too hard to be a good person, that they end up losing their authenticity.
I am all for a positive mindset, the more positive your thoughts, the better your outlook on life will become and the happier and healthier you will feel. Every thought is energy, and a positive thought can drastically increase your energetic vibration. The higher you vibe, the happier you will feel. Have you ever noticed that negative people always have problems in their life, whereas positive people always seem to have it easy? A positive mindset really works!
So when does too much positivity become a problem?
It becomes a problem when you start masking how you really feel with positivity. To create a genuine positive mindset, it’s important to keep it real. Be honest with yourself and others about how you feel and set healthy boundaries. Allow yourself to feel annoyed, frustrated, angry, upset, pissed off! These are all real emotions and should never be ignored. It’s not necessary for us to be positive and happy all he time. Keeping up this act is exhausting and leads to depression. Being honest about your emotions is how we grow. They show us what causes us suffering so that we can adapt, grow and change. If we keep things in for too long and don’t communicate how we feel, we end up feeling angry and frustrated, leading to bursts of uncontrollable anger. These bursts of anger cause us to feel shameful after so we try even harder to be positive in order to cover up our shame. If you feel tired and exhausted on a regular basis, this could be your reason why.
There are many reasons why we hold on too tightly to our positive mindset mask. We want other people to like us, we are ashamed of how we feel inside, we want to be a happier more positive person. We want to be a good person!
If you are wearing your positive mindset mask, you may struggle with the following:
1. You worry about what people think of you.
2. You feel stressed around people who know you really well such as close family.
3. You have lots of friends but not so many that you feel close to.
4. You hate being judged or criticised.
5. You feel exhausted at the end of the day.
6. You experience highs and lows.
7. You spend a lot of time on social media and/or dating websites.
8. You struggle spending time doing nothing and need to feel distracted.
9. You are always chasing more success.
10. You feel the need to shut yourself off from the world to recharge.
To step into your authentic self, it’s important to be open and honest with yourself and do the inner work needed so that you can truly love yourself for who you are. As a trauma healer, I specialise in shadow work so can help you let go of the mask that your ego has created to make you feel good about yourself. Whilst removing the mask, I can show you the beauty behind the mask. The person who you truly are before the world made you feel like you weren’t good enough, smart enough, good looking enough, interesting enough. These are all illusions! Behind every mask, is a beautiful soul desperate to come out. Learn how to let go of fear and egoic control so you can stand in your power and create the life you have always dreamed of. Attract success, love and wealth without having to try so hard. When we are comfortable enough to be our authentic self, a positive mindset comes naturally, suddenly the world becomes a beautiful place and you are able to connect with others on a deeper level.
Love Sarah Creatrix ❤