Communication is one of the hardest challenges of any relationship. I touched on this subject in my previous blog Love and Self Worth but wanted to dedicate this blog purely on the subject of romantic communication. When we love someone it is easy to feel triggered, emotion gets in the way and it is often more difficult to communicate how we feel. This can result in feelings of frustration, anger, resentment and not feeling heard. We can either be too focused on how the other person is making us feel and not getting what we need from them, or on keeping the other person happy and avoid communicating our needs.
So where do communication issues normally originate from?
Not Feeling Heard:
Not having our needs met as a child can cause us to look to fill this void from our partner. This is a really tough role for another person to fill and can result in them not feeling good enough or withdrawing, leaving us to feel alone in our relationship struggles.
Not Communicating Our Needs:
Being overly dominated in the past can lead to us being afraid to speak our truth in case it causes an argument. We therefore hold back and focus on our partners needs over our own, whilst secretly feeling unfulfilled.
To do the inner work we must firstly identify our behaviours and where they originated from. If you struggle to do this, I can help you get to the root of the problem through my Psychic Medium Readings and help you discover ways to work through them to clear old patterns.
Good communication takes practise. As mentioned in my previous blog, focus on an equal balance of talking and listening, giving and receiving. Be brave enough to speak your truth and be open minded to your partners needs. Communicate when you are both calm and avoid conflict when triggered.
Most importantly have fun and don't take life too seriously. Life is for loving!
Love Sarah Creatrix ❤